Things don’t always go the way we plan. A human’s greatest desire is to be happy, so when things don’t go the way we plan…. we put all of our energy into the why. We don’t take any time to consider what we could have done differently. Instead, we tell anyone who will listen (or everyone we know) what happened and how it makes us feel.
It’s natural to want other people’s support; we want to feel allied in our circumstances. We want to know that people feel bad for us and that someone cares. We want to feel like we’re not alone. The only problem is:
It limits our ability (and desire) to take action and create change.
I’m fairly certain you know someone like that right? We all have one in our lives: a person who complains about everything. But what they don’t realize is that sympathy and respect are not mutually exclusive.
“There is no victory in being the victim.”
People don’t respect you because you have problems, they respect you when you attempt to overcome those problems. There’s no winning for losing…unless it forces you to change.
A situation doesn’t change because you talk about it, it doesn’t get better because someone feels bad for you, a situation gets better when you take action.
So what actions can you take?
You only need one… and the rest will fall into place. DECIDE.
Decide that you will not be a victim.
Don’t give a situation more power than it deserves. Change is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to be permanent.
Now is not forever…