A Tip for Making Shit Happen

There are any number of things you can do to make shit happen – that is to say, to be productive – and one of the major things I’ve learned that is the most helpful is this:


Feeling successful and feeling confident helps you be more productive.

Don’t say, “when I get there [where ever it is you see yourself being when you’re successful] I’ll dress that way,” or

“I don’t have to get all dressed up, I’m not there yet.”

Take every opportunity to BE the person you think about becoming.

When I was working from home one of the things I made sure to do was get up in the morning, take a shower, put work clothes on, and then sit down at my desk in my living room. I wasn’t going to see anyone, or attend any meetings but I felt better, I did more.

Try it with me. Plan your clothes for the next few days. Who do you see when you think about being successful or productive? Are you in our pajama bottoms with a hoodie, or are you in a nice pair of jeans and a trendy sweater, or maybe it’s slacks and a button up shirt? It doesn’t matter if you don’t intend to leave your house – wear the clothes, and let them dictate what you will do for the day.


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Success Begins With Imagination

“What is now proved was once only imagined.” – William Blake

My wife thinks “dreaming about things” is nonessential. She’s a doer rather than a dreamer. And I love that about her; we make a great team because sometimes I get far too caught up in the dreaming…

I know a lot of people like my wife: a bit of a skeptic, quick to point out the reality of any situation and even quicker to argue that “hard work is much more valuable than dreams.” I don’t believe hard work is any more valuable, but I’d go as far as to say equally beneficial.

Yes, we need to take action but what action do we take if we don’t know what we want? More simply, what road do we take if we don’t know where we’re going?

1989-RandMcNallyDo you remember those old Rand McNally Road Atlas books that your grandparents would keep in the car for all those boring road trips you’d go on (or maybe you’re too young – if you are, they were what we had before GPS)?

If my grandparents and I were going somewhere my grandpa would insist that I tell him what roads he needed, so I had to learn how to read one early on. He’d say, “we’re going to make our first stop in Medford, [OR] – tell me how to get there,” and he’d point to where we were on the Washington State Map, “we’re here. Now, show me you know where we’re going.” I’d have to open to the state of Oregon and point to Medford so he knew that I knew.  

lfa_statemapLIFE IS LIKE THAT! “Imagination, (or dreaming), is the equivalent of a modern day GPS; it tells you where to go, based on the knowledge of where you want to end up.” (Tweet This)

Believing in your imagination, and dreaming about who, or what you want to be, helps counter the doubt too!

why?I highly doubt Walt Disney ever said things like, “that’s not reality,” or “that will never happen,” or “that’s not how the world works.” He’d say, “Why not?”

When Russell Wilson was interviewed prior to his second appearance in back to back Superbowl’s, he asked his team, “Why not us?” Which soon became a team slogan used by many of the team’s fans. 

“You see things; and you say ‘Why?’ But I dream of things that never were; and say ‘Why not?'” – George Bernard Shaw

Wilson and Disney were not born with magical powers. Neither was Michael Jordan, or Madonna, or even Steve Jobs. They easily, and often times let their imagination run wild. 

Do it today – let yourself IMAGINE. Tell the universe what you want and then, when you know what you want…get to work. 


Why? Image, is used courtesy of the photographer: Art Poskanzer

Are You Impeding Your Own Success

How did I go from being an impulsive go-getter to an over-analytical observer?

How did I become afraid of my own instincts?

Sometimes we are faced with a fork in the road and while each direction has it’s pros & cons, ultimately one is the best choice. But, how do I know the choice I’m making will be the best one?

“Successful people make decisions quickly (as soon as all the facts are available) and change them very slowly (if ever). Unsuccessful people make decisions very slowly, and change them often and quickly.” – Napoleon Hill, The Science of Getting Rich

When I asked a Facebook group this question, the responses I got were variations of the same thing, “Go with your gut.” Going with your gut implies a predisposition or a sixth sense, or intuition even… often times “going with your gut” means to carry out an action based on instinct. However, in order to take action – we also need faith. 

“Make a choice, then make it right.” – Calvin Wayman (Tweet This)

How do you make decisions? Careful analysis of options? Discussion? Guidance from a mentor? Instinct?

Q: What happens when you doubt your instincts? 

A: We lose faith.

When I was young I was impulsive. I would leave a job before I even had another job to go to. I believed in the notion that everything would work out. Which, I learned later, was actually a clever disguise for the confidence I had in my grandparents, rather than an actual faith in myself. They always provided where I fell short. But I never hesitated to make a decision because I knew would help me if the decision I made turned out to be the wrong one. So I say again, faith. We impede our success when we lose faith in our ability to change or adapt any decision we make.

“When instinct is married with faith – we become unstoppable.” (Tweet This)

I spend more time weighing the options that eventually a decision is made for me by outside circumstances. I get angry with myself when I’m at the point of analysis paralysis.  Doubt creates a lack of faith and when no faith exists we don’t believe we can adapt. 

When we believe that our decisions are final, we often times fail to make any decision at all. (Tweet This)

What decision have you faced in your life? Were you quick to decide? Did it turn out the way you hoped? What do you think contributes to quick decision making? Is it faith?

Tell me about it!


The One Thing You Need to Do, to Change Your Life

Things don’t always go the way we plan. A human’s greatest desire is to be happy, so when things don’t go the way we plan…. we put all of our energy into the why. We don’t take any time to consider what we could have done differently. Instead, we tell anyone who will listen (or everyone we know) what happened and how it makes us feel. 

It’s natural to want other people’s support; we want to feel allied in our circumstances. We want to know that people feel bad for us and that someone cares. We want to feel like we’re not alone. The only problem is: 

It limits our ability (and desire) to take action and create change. 

I’m fairly certain you know someone like that right? We all have one in our lives: a person who complains about everything. But what they don’t realize is that sympathy and respect are not mutually exclusive. 

“There is no victory in being the victim.”

People don’t respect you because you have problems, they respect you when you attempt to overcome those problems. There’s no winning for losing…unless it forces you to change.

A situation doesn’t change because you talk about it, it doesn’t get better because someone feels bad for you, situation gets better when you take action.

So what actions can you take?

You only need one… and the rest will fall into place. DECIDE. 

Decide that you will not be a victim.

Don’t give a situation more power than it deserves. Change is inevitable, but it doesn’t have to be permanent.

Now is not forever…

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Maintaining Your Mediocrity

You didn’t really believe this was a blog post with instructions on how to maintain your mediocrity, did you? Good, because it’s not.

What do you think when I say,

“We maintain our mediocrity when we disregard the instructions as outlined by others of success.”

When we have knowledge of the rules and laws, and things we should do (proven steps that need to be taken) and we disregard them thinking we know better…WE FAIL

Does that sound familiar? You know you’ve done it; asked for help and then disregarded the instructions. You’ve justified it by saying, “I’m different than she is, it’s not going to work for me like that… I know myself.” And yet, you never see the success you were hoping to see.

If you want success and someone of success tells you how to get it – DO IT.

Don’t think you know better. If you did you would be where you want to be already.

Early last year, I decided I needed to make some changes in my life. I made the conscious effort to lose weight. I had given birth to my second child four years prior and was still suffering the hardships of carrying extra weight.

And thus arose an important question: “What do I need to do in order to be successful?”

I went to the people in my life who were losing weight. I asked their advice and took notes. I realized on a very cellular level, if they were doing it and I hadn’t had any success up to that point, their advice was probably valid and definitely useful. Then it was a matter of:





I had a conversation with a co-worker shortly after I lost my 37th pound, about weight-loss – she wanted to know what I was doing to be so successful. I told her, “No fast food, no carbs, no processed food…” She turned to leave, “I think I’m going to try that.”

The next week she lost 10lbs…SUCCESS

The next time you find yourself at the precipice of a new challenge or adventure, and there is success to be had in your efforts, take note:

If you had all the answers you would be where you want to be already, and asking for help doesn’t stop at the asking. There is DOING to be done. And I know…YOU CAN DO IT. 

Has there been something in your life where you found yourself asking for help, only to talk yourself out of the advice that you received? Let’s talk about it!

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