Have you ever thought about what makes you a good friend? Recently I read an article that outlined the criteria for being a good friend and I have to be honest: I don’t think I’ve been a very good friend.
According to Mark, it isn’t how we react to our friends’ BAD news that matters so much, after all, they’re pretty down anyway. It’s what we have to say when our intimates present us with the GOOD news that determines the strength of our friendships – are we pleased for them? Do we voice our pride and support and shout loudly enough over that little voice inside us asking why we didn’t have a better day ourselves, or if they’ll remember to ask about us? –
How many times have you been sitting with a friend and as they tell you about something incredible that’s happened to them you’re distracted by your own thoughts? Instead of listening and sharing in their excitement you’re jealous or maybe just waiting for a break in the conversation to talk about yourself.
It’s not about how you react to hearing your friends’ sorrows, it’s how you react to their joys….
Are you able to separate yourself from the “what about ME” mentality and genuinely be happy for them?
When I was little I had this picture album and on the cover was a little girl and a quote,
“Dear God, if I give all my love away can I have a refill?”
I use to feel like good things were limited, like if my friends had something happen to them then it was one less thing out there for me.
Good things in life are only limited if you limit yourself. It’s not your friend’s fault if good things aren’t happening for you. If you don’t take action to get what you want, good things won’t happen for you. (Next week we discuss – how KNOWING what good things you want to happen to you also helps….)
Be happy for your friends, and don’t worry….it doesn’t take anything away from you or your future successes.